tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4284857526054480548.post7394583264664099544..comments2024-03-28T12:07:10.505+00:00Comments on Sooz In The Shed...: A walk on the beachAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14655367062835778108noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4284857526054480548.post-12172359176848289992014-05-01T20:11:03.926+01:002014-05-01T20:11:03.926+01:00Thank you, Sooz. And your husband too. That is als...Thank you, Sooz. And your husband too. That is also something I will keep coming back to - no matter how much my heart is breaking, and how much I miss him and wish so very much that he was still alive and well and here with us, the pain I am feeling equals the depth and degree of love I felt and will always feel and will always have for him. I too would go through this unbearable pain in my heart if it means the gift of having had him in my life, even if that time was too short.<br /><br />I have been comforted by a few blogs and websites I've come across these past few weeks, dealing not only with grief and bereavement in general, but more specifically, ones for trying to cope with the loss of a beloved pet. There is one blog I found recently, by Marianne Soucy, and she has just published and released her new book, 'Coping with the Loss of a Beloved Pet.' She is very, very generously inviting people who would like to get this book to order the book - free of charge - between today and May 3rd - if they have a Kindle. <br /><br />Unfortunately, I don't have a Kindle, and don't have the money at the moment to purchase the actual, tangible version of the book, so I will have to wait before I can buy it. I don't know if you have a Kindle, Sooz, but if you do, perhaps this might help ease your heart a bit, so I just wanted to tell you (and whoever else is going through what you and I are going through) about it.<br /><br />Please tell your hubby that I send him a virtual hug for asking you 'that question.' A very important and profound question - with only one answer. I will keep that answer close to me as I remember my sweet boy, with love and with my tears. I remember the lyrics to a beautiful song by Morrissey - '...there is a light that will never go out.' junenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4284857526054480548.post-63182452256789779302014-05-01T15:12:57.242+01:002014-05-01T15:12:57.242+01:00The one thing my Husband said that I keep going ba...The one thing my Husband said that I keep going back to is, would you give up the pain to not have ever had her. The answer is always the same, I would go through it all again just for one more cuddle...... just one more.<br />Keep strong June, you are not alone. Time heals I guess, it's just waiting for it to happen.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14655367062835778108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4284857526054480548.post-85161355602836601652014-05-01T13:59:38.180+01:002014-05-01T13:59:38.180+01:00Thanks, Sooz. Mostly I have been keeping myself to...Thanks, Sooz. Mostly I have been keeping myself to myself, and my feelings to myself - especially around a few well-meaning friends who simply do not understand this grief, or the depth of this grief, to the point where I've had to keep my distance from them somewhat, which is causing a different kind of sadness.<br /><br />Yes...a trip to the seaside, and a gift shop browse or two, and a lunch at a cafe (or a greasy spoon - I love those types of old places that have that 'place-that-time-forgot' feel and look to them - a root around for trinkets and treasures while walking along the dunes and the stones and the pebbles, maybe some ice cream or toffee brittle, and yes, definitely a pin-wheel/windmill..<br /><br />I just wish I could have saved him. I wish I could have had him here with us longer than the nine short years that he brought so much joy to us, and so many smiles, giggles and laughter, along with all the love he gave us. Those are the memories that I hold on to now, to get me through. He is alive in those memories, and in my love for him...Junenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4284857526054480548.post-49600625530078807672014-05-01T13:23:24.351+01:002014-05-01T13:23:24.351+01:00Oh June, I am so sorry, I know how you feel and yo...Oh June, I am so sorry, I know how you feel and you know how I feel. Unless you have been there you just don't get it. Getting out into the sea air did me a world of good, although Dotty was a huge miss, she loved the water, but we had nice memories that day. I really did feel as though my spirits had been lifted somewhat.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14655367062835778108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4284857526054480548.post-13448722118575828992014-05-01T13:12:52.149+01:002014-05-01T13:12:52.149+01:00A walk along a favourite beach is probably exactly...A walk along a favourite beach is probably exactly what I am in need of, too. I have been feeling so very much like you have been, about missing your beloved Dotty Dog. On February 27th, only a few days after I had left a comment for you about Dotty, my beloved cat - my forever cat...my soul cat...passed away, gently, in my arms. I miss him so much. Since that Thursday evening, I haven't felt like doing much of anything, but do it anyway, just to occupy and focus my mind on something else besides the deep sadness I've been feeling, and the heartbreak. Life hasn't been the same, and this house isn't the same without him - he was such a loving, sweet, affectionate, intelligent, funny and adorable little fellow.<br /><br />I'm happy for you that you have found a bit of sunshine in the midst of all the grey skies that've been hovering around your heart since Dotty's death. I am trying to find my own way through the grief, and the first thing that came to mind when I read your post just now was that, yes...a trip to the beach might help bring a smile back on my face and a bit of happiness back into my heart...even if only for a little while. Being near the ocean has always brought me joy.<br /><br />Thanks for reminding me to be kind to myself, and to try to find ways to bring back some sunshine into my life. And thanks to your hubby for encouraging you to go to Morecambe. I've never been, but it sounds like just my kinda place.Junenoreply@blogger.com